Why does the dinner have to be held on a Friday or Saturday night?


Some of your donors have told you they have been to successful dinners on Wednesday, Thursday, or even Sunday? There’s no question that there have been successful dinners held on days other than Friday or Saturday.  However, we must look at the ultimate goal. Your goal is not simply to provide an easy date or day for someone to attend. Your goal is to get as many people to attend and be fully immersed in the ministry – that includes both the husband and the wife – and to make this an enjoyable, encouraging and challenging night.  


In the last 25-30 years, decision-making in a family has changed. It used to be that the husband made all the decisions about contributions and giving. Today, decisions regarding tithes and giving are made jointly. That’s why both the husband and wife need to be at the event, equally partaking in the experience. Dinners held on weeknights are often only attended by a husband or a wife, leaving 50% of the equation left out. Weeknight dinners are often considered and treated much like “business” meetings – individuals rush in, eat, listen for a while and scoot out. In contrast, our hope is that this functions much closer to a date night than a business meeting.  It needs to be special – savored and enjoyed. On weeknights, people are concerned about work the next day, school, or getting a baby-sitter home early. On Friday or Saturday, many of these concerns are no longer relevant.


Why is it important to conduct your Vision Dinner in a hotel or country club rather than a less expensive location like a church fellowship hall or on-campus ballroom?


One of the major goals of the Vision Dinner is to provide an encouraging and enjoyable evening to those in attendance. But even before they get there - during the invitation process - it is important to present an enticing opportunity in which people will want to partake. Whether the guests are singles or couples, you want this evening to be viewed much like a date night. Even though a local church, large or small, may provide a warm environment for a Sunday morning service, most couples or singles would not choose a church fellowship hall for a date. The same is true for an on-campus ballroom. Many people state that they have only a handful of real date nights per year, so if they are going to use one of those precious evenings to go to a ministry event, it had better be good. There is definitely a different response when asking someone to go to a complimentary dinner at a nice hotel or Country Club versus a church fellowship hall – even the finest church’s fellowship hall isn’t the same as a nice hotel ballroom. Also, by using a specific church denomination's venue, it aligns uswitho that specific denomination's beliefs and could turn some of your guests off.

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